They are not there for your pure enjoyment.
They are there for the same reason that you are. To learn, to grow, to evolve. They are temporarily in your dimension as you are temporarily in it.
When you love another.. think of this love for their highest good. What does this love do for another? Does it lift them? does it allow them to see their truth... THEIR potential? Does it allow them to feel true joy, true unconditional love, true spirit?
When you project thoughts of this person.. are they of the highest? DO your projections, thoughts, judgments affect the other? Are you thinking of all that they do wrong? Are you thinking/feeling jealous thoughts of them? of their past? of their success? of their own friendships? Of their life and experiences? of the way they are and their personality? Are you judging them because of ' all that they are not' ? They are having their very own experiences you know... of learning and growing and discovering as you are. They are learning their limitations and learning about the human experience just as you are. With many 'mistakes' with many turns at many corners. All souls are here to learn and experience.
No need to judge no matter how close they are. Be true to yourself regardless of the acts of another. They can only affect you in so much as you allow and open yourself to be hurt in that way.
You open yourself up to be hurt in that way when you live in lower mind and project the separate self. The self that needs completeness is the separate self. It is always yearning for wholeness. But it is only within you that you can find this wholeness/completeness. In that heavenly place within the highest of your very own HEART. This heart that links with all hearts. And everything that is living has a heart.. bet you won't find a place that life is not.
On earth, when you are part of a family.... Your family is NOT your family... but life's family. Your children are not yours. Not yours to possess. They are incarnate and in your reality to experience life just as another. Just as your brother, just as your friend.. or boyfriend or another. Just as yourself. They are Divine sparks just as all are.. here to partake in this experience alongside with you. They chose to be around you just as you chose to be around them to learn in this way.
You open yourself up to be hurt when you live in lower mind and try to control another. Desiring that they conform to your life standards, according to what sets your emotional feelings in a desirable place. For example, when you try to control your child instead of allowing your child to discover and learn on his own for himself. There is a degree to which parents can teach and it is in allowing and truly loving the child. Now, this doesn't mean to let them do anything and everything they want. But to not LASH out because of your own emotions. To not lash out because you are having a bad day. Do not lash out or always tell the child what to do because you are always worried. Lead by example, always and it is your example that sets the child's life's understanding in place. Allow the child to discover for him/her self.. allow them to grow and be self reliant as well. Allow them to be their own teachers as well. And too.. allow them to be your teachers.
Are your parents not meeting your standards of emotional comfort... or even of peace? Be an example and keep on being an example. This is the only way to teach. Do not attach yourself to them in the sense of POSSESSION. They do not belong to you. They belong to life.. and it's loving flow. Know that as much as you desire them to be different or never die (transition)... that they are going through their own human experience and that you do not own them just as you do not own your child nor even your very own body. True LOVE means.. allowing, understanding, and thinking of the HIGHEST good of another. And if the highest good means for them to transition than see their gain and not your loss. Understand that there is a natural flow in life.. and attuning to that natural flow is how we learn true love and the natural processes of life and death.. of change and transition. Attune to trusting in life and it's guidance. You will always be given exactly what you give out. Trust and receive exactly what you need. Trust in God .. in Life.. and be grateful for this short human experience and you will be given a wonderful response.
True love means allowing another to explore their very own limitations and actions. Just as a child. Just as we all truly learn from experience and life lessons. See all as CHILDREN OF the UNIVERSE. As STUDENTS in grade school. Taking exams, asking questions, and taking opportunities to make 'mistakes' and to test their boundaries of thoughts and emotions. Course it is natural to interfere with something severe as one wanting to hurt another physically, mentally, or emotionally. But this will be taught to them naturally as you treat them in the most loving way. As they see you respond to life in this way.. by not hurting anything in Life. By respecting all life.. and being this way in harmony with life's sacredness.
In order to have a beautiful relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend one must first look at the other relationships in ones life with friends, family, and people outside of these categories. How are these relationships? Are they of the highest? Are they supported by unconditional love? Is there anyone you dislike? is there any aggression you have towards another? Towards gender, race, social status, appearances? This will affect the deep relationship of merging so close with another. (in marriage and or with a bf/ g/f )
Practice true love and forgiveness.. understanding of life's natural flow and your relationship will be one of beauty and filled with ease.. as you swiftly surpass life's bumps. These bumps are only there as a constant reminder for you to return to an alignment with the Highest. Once you return and then merge with natural flow.. life can and will be a breeze. A splendor..
So, do you feel jealous of your partner? Move from lower mind to Highest heart. And understand that jealousy stems from feelings of incompleteness. The separate mind.. the ego. There is nothing to be jealous about. One's past is past... life's experiences.. moved to the gazillions and trillions (there isn't a number for) of experiences stored in life's storehouse. If these feelings of jealousy or dissatisfaction in your relationship are 'stemming' from actions on the part of your partner in which he/she is 'cheating' on you or doing things that you feel are 'absorbing' much of your energy. Also for example : drinking, or being abusive. Then you must be still and truly contemplate on how this is reflecting something you must experience in your life for any reason. Are there lessons you must learn? Is there a reason why you cannot leave? Is there previous life experiences which have created patterns of this kind of 'abuse'? Is there any reason why this would reflect in your life? These experiences can go for situations with friends and family as well. Is there something you must learn from this? is there something you must also teach another from this experience.
Can you not leave because you feel chained? Are you allowing abuse in your life? Are you attempting to posses another and desiring that they become what you would like them to become in order for YOU to live a happy life. Do you feel that you know what is best for them? Do you feel that they deserve the happiness that you know and will do anything to make them a happy and peaceful being? Well, you cannot force another to skip the steps of life's lessons. Everyone is at stages in life... learning lessons of what they themselves set up in order to slowly merge with highest LIFE.. highest LIGHT.. higher MIND.. higher HEART.
Understand their stage.. see their stage.. love them unconditionally and allow them to live. Set an example.. how are you living? how do you react to others? how to you treat yourself? How do you treat this person? Do you try to control them? to you try to posses them? Do you want them to fulfill a deep desire within you. They do not own you nor do you own them.
Live life this way. Observing the life of others. Regardless of who they are. Friend, stranger, parent, bf/gf, husband, wife... observe the stages they are at. Give them advice when they ask. For it is when they ask that they are open to changing. Live as an example ... by standing in your highest light. And in doing so, if you LOVE another Unconditionally and wish the highest for them.. then if they are READY and WILLING they will see the examples you are setting and learn from you and chose to live life differently.
Work on standing in your Highest light. Merge with Highest. Open yourself to the unconditional love that is YOU and is all around you. Open yourself up to understanding the natural flow and merging with it. Open yourself up to Life's lessons and ask to understand them for what they are ... in their many perspectives and highest understanding.
Do not try to control anyone. For we are all at many stages and going down many paths. All sparks of Divine here to experience this world and this reality.
Are you jealous of any other for any reason or unhappy with the life of another? Know jealousy stems from EGO mind. Be joyful that the other is a Divine spark here to experience and live life .. live this dream and bring all to them which is in their path. It can be hard to be joyful for another for example an Aunt, a parent or family member who is constantly angry or complaining or upset and 'making' you upset. They are not making you upset. You are allowing them to affect you according to your own emotional responses. It all comes down to understanding... understand life's flow... They are going through their VERY OWN experience.. learn to observe.. and not attach yourself emotionally in the sense that you want to see them RIGHT AWAY the way you want them to be or what you want them to be going through. When we LOVE another we desire that the other person is also in a beautiful place in their life of joy and love.. BUT one cannot CONTROL the life of another. When you LOVE.. and i mean LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.. you will do your best to lead by example. And it is THEN up to THEM on what they choose to do. Leave it in life's trustworthy hands. And TRUST in the natural flow. DO not allow yourself to be an emotional sponge. Being an Empath does not mean that you have to give up standing in your highest light. Being an Empath does not mean that you have to allow the lower mind to rule your emotions or another. If you feel what another is going through you can balance these feelings/emotions with HIGHER understanding of life's natural flow. See life as a cycle as a flow.. and process. It doesn't mean that you do not Love others anymore or understand what they go through. It means you can understand the process of life and free will and of learning in this grade school we call earth. We are all in different stages and the fact that we all have the free will to grow and choose which decisions we make and what thoughts we project shows that we all see things from a different point and experience life in different stages. Sometimes not all can see this. And we wish to teach another to see with their higher Mind and live from Heart.. but they can only see and BE when they are ready and when they choose and if they see an example.. and wish to follow it. and learn from the example. Like in MATH... we need examples in order to understand how to make the equation and come out with a harmonious (number vibration hehe) answer.
Reading is one thing. To SEE in LIFE ACTION is another. It means to BELIEVE.
If your partner for instance is an alcoholic, drug abuser, self abuser, people abuser.. life abuser.. ASK yourself. IS THERE SOMETHING in ME projecting this. Is there SOMETHING I MUST LEARN or need to TEACH by example. Is there a reason why this is in my life? And IF this person in your life does not change after you set this example (for example a boyfriend/girlfriend, friend) once again UNDERSTAND this for what it is. A soul experiencing life according to his/her free will. After asking yourself these questions ask yourself... Must you stay in this relationship attached in such a way? Are you done with this lesson? Have you surrendered it to the HIGHEST? move on.. and if you cannot turn the page because it is a family member.. must you live in the same place? If there is no choice and you have made up your mind to stay in the same household or in the same relationship.. Then you have made this decision... and you are choosing to continue to learn and teach...and with these people... but know that you ARE a Divine spark and you do not belong to anyone nor do you own anyone.. you are all children of Life and are Life itself.... don't see life through the eyes of the lower mind.. learn to see with the eyes of the DIVINE LIGHT THAT YOU ARE. You can be heaven on earth whenever you choose.
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